Miles Pulver – Marylebone, W1

I work with couples, half-couples & individuals. My aim in relationship therapy is – usually – to help couples re-find & re-build (or sometimes just find & build) a secure, connected and loving bond together.

Often couples come to therapy hurt and bemused. Sometimes they are clear they want to work things out; or sometimes, the relationship has been so painful over time, they just cannot be sure they want to stay together. Somehow they have found themselves – with the person who has been most important to them – in a escalating cycle of protest, blame, criticism, withdrawal, coldness, distancing & disconnection. Sometimes there has been something dramatic to have brought things to a head, like an affair; or sometimes it feels there is a risk of slow drifting apart. If this sounds familiar, to you then it is important to know that with care, focused-attention & patience you can learn to undo these cycles, understand how your partner is trying to protect themselves & learn to successfully reach for each other & create a positive connection together. I work actively with couples to dismantle these cycles, help you each explore what has been triggering them, what is happening underneath your protective reactions and how to re-connect together in a way that you both want.

Sometimes clients decide come alone for therapy, to look at relationship issues in private. Perhaps you want to think though a relationship you are in – maybe you are wondering should I stay or should I go? Or maybe a relationship has ended but you find yourself still with a sense of loss. Or perhaps you are single and would like to be in a relationship, but want to work through some patterns you feel maybe getting in your way.

I am trained in a range of different psychotherapy approaches (see below). Before training as a therapist I also had a business career – and indeed still coach for organisations; and do a lot of individual psychotherapy with senior executives – so I also understand the impact of corporate life & roles on our relationships.

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Qualifications include: Psychoanalytic Couples Psychotherapy – Tavistock Relationships Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy – International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy Intensive Short Term Dynamic Psychotherapy – International Experiential Dynamic Therapy Association Martial Therapy – Tavistock Relationships Other trainings include: Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy Affect Phobia Therapy Process Oriented Psychology Memberships: British Psychoanalytic Council Tavistock Alumni British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy International Experiential Dynamic Therapy Association


Relationship & couples psychotherapy. Executive psychotherapy – working with business people on the psychological issues (thinking, feeling, relating) that arise at work. I am particularly interested in active and engaged forms of psychotherapy: where the aim is not merely to think/get insight, but also to proactively work through emotional obstacles and find healthier more effective ways of thinking feeling & relating. (The therapies that specialise in this approach tend to be generically called “experiential psychotherapies”, and I have listed a number of them above.)